“The whole secret of existence is to have no fear” Buddha
“The secret of life is to have no fear.” Fela Kuti
“The secret of life is to have no fear; it’s the only way to function.” Stokely Carmichael
I became a homeowner in January. It’s really the result of finding meaning in “How did I get here?” or the cliche phrase, “Everything happens for a reason.” I really had to work with myself to remove fear.
Freak Out: It Happens
In January 2016, I got a letter from the City of Milwaukee stating that the house I was renting was going into foreclosure and they were taking it over. I immediately freaked out and said “Not again.” I’d only been living there for 6 months because the place I previously rented went into foreclosure too. I didn’t want to move again. My son didn’t want to move again. I was angry but determined to win.
Say What: Change Up
We allow negative talk or our fears to creep in and block us from moving forward. A couple of my friends mentioned that I should buy the house. I came up with a list of “why not” reasons one of them being I didn’t want to own a home on my own. It’s a huge responsibility. For years I said, “I don’t want to own a home until I’m married.” How many times have we said, “I don’t want to x until y happens.”
Make A Decision
Every decision you make should be intentional. So I wrote down what I wanted in a home. I spent hours looking at places to rent but nothing was quite like my home. The Universe said, “There’s no place like the home you are already in.” I took a homeowner’s class that February. I began preparing myself for the possibility.
If you have a vision and fear is getting in the way, take action. The city came to do an inspection of my house, offered a lease, and asked me if I would be interested in buying my house. They connected me to ACTS Housing. One conversation with Coretta Herring from ACTS Housing turned my fear into real possibility. I took action. I turned my homeowner’s application to ACTS Housing on April 27th, 2016 which coincidentally is the same day I was accepted into Aveda’s Massage Therapy program. I took a closer look at my credit and paid off my debt.
“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” Jack Canfield
Our decisions to remove fear to move forward is a big deal but it’s one of the healthiest choices you can make for yourself. What people don’t tell you is that it’s normal to feel overwhelmed in the process. Reference your plan and take more action. It’s absolutely worth it. I’m making expensive decisions to repair the house, choosing contractors, and paint colors. I know I’m not alone in this. My family and friends are supportive and I’ll be hosting a paint party soon. I walked into more than I could’ve imagined because I conquered my fears to move forward. I now have twice the space to live out my vision to Live In Bloom.
See this topic live on Real Milwaukee: http://fox6now.com/2017/04/10/overcome-your-fears-and-get-what-you-want-in-life-but-how-expert-weighs-in/
Tiffany Miller ~ Creative Live Coach